Is there a special yard stick that you use to measure the length you'd go for a friend? Having read countless books on human and organisational behaviour there is one thing that all of these books have in common, at some point of the book, they always mention that every human has some good in them, NO MATTER how much evil there is in them, or how cruel they are..
It says that, in every being, there will always be a sense of compassion no matter the level of cruelty there is in a person. But the question is, how can one see the good in a person when there is so much negative clouds hanging over someone? Can anyone say there was a bit of good in Adolph Hitler? Who would care. Or if there was a sense of compassion in Saddam Hussein.
The point is that, no matter what good you do, no matter the countless deeds you carry out, you be can rest assured that the slighest fault or in a better way of putting it, the smallest of misdeeds Never goes unrecognized. You can do all the good in the world, and go to the ends of the earth for anyone you like, but the slighest distest goes longer than the miles you travelled for your deeds.
Why? Simple. Its pure human nature. You can hold the biggggggggest whittttest sheet of cloth, with the tiniest speck of a black dot, and if you ask someone wat they see, the answer would be a small black dot, INSTEAD of so much white. Nobody is to be blamed for this, we all are judged for our weaknesses and inadequaties, instead of being judged for the exact opposite. We love the negative side of everything in our lives, and here are a few good examples.
Suppose you are learning a new language, how does a normal lay man do that? By learning and 'mastering' the profanities first, and then from there, he\she learns to construct sentences.
When we see a great goal scored, instead of admiring the skill and creativity in which the player scored the goal, we'd rather accuse the keeper of being a total loser and not doing his job well.
When we see a horrific accident on the road, instead of looking to see if the drivers are okay, or how could the accident hev occured so that we could learn not to repeat the mistake, what do we do? We hurrily jot down the number plate of the car. Watching a gorgeous girl walking past you, instead of admiring her beauty and class, we become envious and say she looks cocky and arrogant because of her looks. Watching a brand new Beamer drive by, we mock the driver and say he probably had a lot of help getting to the top, no way this fella could afford this car.
Seeing a man wearing a tee, shorts and slippers in a mall, instead of thinking he's a very simple man, our heads go " stupid Apek dunno how dress".
There are just so many examples that I can put forth to prove that it has become an absolute normality that we judge and preconceive notions based on negative casts.
See, its just the way life is. Its either step, or be stepped on. You can never stop one from judging you and 'unleashing' all things negative about you, even if yr positives are 1000 to 1. There's no way of doing anything about it. So. I choose the best revenge of all.
To live well. Its the best form of revenge I can extend to all those who have a made a living out of judging my life and the things I do. Sure I may not be the richest of richest, or the Brad Pitts of Brad Pitts, but there is one thing I can always have that nothing you say will ever take away, my happiness. The choices you make in life, on an everyday basis may not be to everyone's liking, but if it makes you happy, then there is no need to fret. We often worry ourselves of what people might think and say about us. Well I say, I will live my life the way I am happy with, regardless of who it may dismay.
People will always talk, they will always gossip. they will always find the smallest fault in you. So there is nothing you can actually do it, so DON'T even try to do anything about it.
You can't please everyone, so just please yourself. Just list down ten things that you are happy about yourself,it can be about anything, once your done, can you think of ANYONE who has complemented you on those ten things? How many people can you list down who have negative things to say about you? Well more than ten I'm sure.
Remember, the best form of revenge is to live well.
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