The Busy Holiday...

The Christmas and New Year Holiday season, should not be even called a holiday. It is filled with chores, events, parties, errands, visits and so many more activities that you don't have a moments rest to savour the time off that you've been given. Personally, I've had my hands tied ever since the holidays began and looking at the way things are, the holiday has just flown by.

The running around to get that Right gift for that right person, the time spent in church preparing to celebrate the arrival of Christmas, spreading the joy of Christmas throught door to door caroling, Christmas gatherings, kin visiting and even spring cleaning just wears you out throughout the festive season.

But nevertheless, throughout the myriad of things that had to be done, the Joy of Christmas and everything that has to do with it is priceless. Seeing smiling faces all round, laughing with one another, the great food anywhere you go, the countless home invitations, it is something that comes round once a year and therefore it is cherished beyond bounds.

Merry Christmas everyone... And a Happy New Year..

The Sweetest Revenge

How far would you go for a friend? How much would you for a friend? What is your limit like?

Is there a special yard stick that you use to measure the length you'd go for a friend? Having read countless books on human and organisational behaviour there is one thing that all of these books have in common, at some point of the book, they always mention that every human has some good in them, NO MATTER how much evil there is in them, or how cruel they are..

It says that, in every being, there will always be a sense of compassion no matter the level of cruelty there is in a person. But the question is, how can one see the good in a person when there is so much negative clouds hanging over someone? Can anyone say there was a bit of good in Adolph Hitler? Who would care. Or if there was a sense of compassion in Saddam Hussein.

The point is that, no matter what good you do, no matter the countless deeds you carry out, you be can rest assured that the slighest fault or in a better way of putting it, the smallest of misdeeds Never goes unrecognized. You can do all the good in the world, and go to the ends of the earth for anyone you like, but the slighest distest goes longer than the miles you travelled for your deeds.

Why? Simple. Its pure human nature. You can hold the biggggggggest whittttest sheet of cloth, with the tiniest speck of a black dot, and if you ask someone wat they see, the answer would be a small black dot, INSTEAD of so much white. Nobody is to be blamed for this, we all are judged for our weaknesses and inadequaties, instead of being judged for the exact opposite. We love the negative side of everything in our lives, and here are a few good examples.

Suppose you are learning a new language, how does a normal lay man do that? By learning and 'mastering' the profanities first, and then from there, he\she learns to construct sentences.
When we see a great goal scored, instead of admiring the skill and creativity in which the player scored the goal, we'd rather accuse the keeper of being a total loser and not doing his job well.
When we see a horrific accident on the road, instead of looking to see if the drivers are okay, or how could the accident hev occured so that we could learn not to repeat the mistake, what do we do? We hurrily jot down the number plate of the car. Watching a gorgeous girl walking past you, instead of admiring her beauty and class, we become envious and say she looks cocky and arrogant because of her looks. Watching a brand new Beamer drive by, we mock the driver and say he probably had a lot of help getting to the top, no way this fella could afford this car.
Seeing a man wearing a tee, shorts and slippers in a mall, instead of thinking he's a very simple man, our heads go " stupid Apek dunno how dress".

There are just so many examples that I can put forth to prove that it has become an absolute normality that we judge and preconceive notions based on negative casts.
See, its just the way life is. Its either step, or be stepped on. You can never stop one from judging you and 'unleashing' all things negative about you, even if yr positives are 1000 to 1. There's no way of doing anything about it. So. I choose the best revenge of all.

To live well. Its the best form of revenge I can extend to all those who have a made a living out of judging my life and the things I do. Sure I may not be the richest of richest, or the Brad Pitts of Brad Pitts, but there is one thing I can always have that nothing you say will ever take away, my happiness. The choices you make in life, on an everyday basis may not be to everyone's liking, but if it makes you happy, then there is no need to fret. We often worry ourselves of what people might think and say about us. Well I say, I will live my life the way I am happy with, regardless of who it may dismay.
People will always talk, they will always gossip. they will always find the smallest fault in you. So there is nothing you can actually do it, so DON'T even try to do anything about it.
You can't please everyone, so just please yourself. Just list down ten things that you are happy about yourself,it can be about anything, once your done, can you think of ANYONE who has complemented you on those ten things? How many people can you list down who have negative things to say about you? Well more than ten I'm sure.

Remember, the best form of revenge is to live well.

And you would do.....

Let me ask you something.. You drive down this long lonely road on a rainy day, you spot a bus stand and there~!!!

You see three people.. a sickly old man who desperately needs to get to the nearest hospital, a drop dead gorgeous woman who is the woman of your dreams, and your old long lost buddy..

Now, sure, you wanna give the poor man a ride to the hospital, as well as pick up that hot chick who's a daimsel in distress, and you wanna help yr old pal outta the rain...

BUT! you drive a two seater SMART CAR.. not so SMART now is it..

So what do you do??help the sick man? pick that babe up? or catch yr old friend a break? The obvious answer would be to let yr pal take the man to the hospital, and you wait with the chick at the bus stand.

Now's the part you people go ~ Oh yeah>>>

But wait, is it really that simple?? Ask a babe, she'll say, the old guy's probably gonna die soon anyway, what difference does it make if he makes the hospital or not? And the friend, you've not seen him for ages, does it really bite to give it a few more years?

The friend would argue, babes are a dime a dozen.. lose one today, another comes strolling along tomorrow..the old man.. well if he dies, at least he has bragging rights about kicking the bucket next to a hot bunny...

What would the old man argue to his defence??
What better way to die than on a rainy day next to a beautiful woman, and in the sight of two old friends reuniting...

Wisdom comes with Old Age.....

Our so called Datuk

I am absolutely amazed and appalled at the same time regarding the recent Datukship awarded to Shah Rukh Khan. Not only is it wrong, it is enormously ridiculous to have done such a thing, and let me tell you why. First of all, it sends a ghastly message to everyone that we have over looked our very own people, those who have made tremendous amounts of contributions in various fields. Malaysians should be given the upmost priority when it comes to recognizing and rewarding those who really deserve to be awarded because of the contributions they have made to the nation. Not only is this very condecsending to us Malaysians, but it also runs the risk that the title 'Datuk' will eventually lose all its credibility among the common people. Awarding a superstar actor just because his film was shot in Malacca is hardly the proper reason or excuse to confer such a highly respected title.

Those who actually agreed to SRK's Datukship are on the notion that it promoted Malacca and our country to the world. If that is the case, why don't we confer a Datukship to Sean Connery and Catherine Zeta Jones too, who shot Entrapment against the backdrop of KLCC? Why not award a 'Datuk' title to every foreign artiste who comes to this land of ours to perform and promote our country to the world? We are in turn, making the title 'Datuk' the bud of people's joke and a mockery. This has damaging consequences especially to 'Datuks' who have really earned this title. We have to remain practical and sensible to say the very least. We cannot keep throwing this 'Datuk' title around to every Tom, Dick and Harry when those who have contributed so much to Malaysia are out of the loop. The likes of The Alleycats, who themselves have entertained us throughout the decades, and promoted our local music scene to various regions have had their warranted recognition and appreciation elude them, because we have chosen to award people like SRK. No offense to SRK, he is a fine actor and a great entertainer in his own right, but the fact remains that there are more than a handful of individuals in this country alone who deserve proper recognition for their contribution. We cannot choose to ignore really deserving Malaysians, and mindlessly start administering a high sense of recognition to foreigners, especially for a ridiculous reason such as the SRK case.

It is my sincere hope for this nation that we learn to prioritize and give recognition where it is due.We must learn to think before we act, and avoid senseless decisions such as awarding SRK with a 'Datukship'. We must all take this as a good lesson that we need to put our people first, think of own fellow countrymen before choosing to look abroad. The grass always looks greener on the other side because we fail to look at our own yard first.

Need? Greed?

Being an everyday traveller via public transport, it is hackneyed truth that I do encounter a healthy number of beggars along the way- pathways, sidewalks, bus stops, staircases, you name it they're there. And upon noticing them, I do fork out a buck or two and drop it into their little tin or plastic cup. Seeing these people make me more grateful and appreciative of what I have been blessed with in life- Great family, talents in abundance, great friends, a wonderfully long and happy relationship with someone special. But although I find myself giving alms to these people, I sometimes question their motives in my head. Do they REALLY need to resort to begging to make a living? Has life really hit rock bottom for them? Some of them are really able bodied individuals, of whom I am sure could secure some sort of work rather than hitting the streets. When I talk about this to people close to me, often i get responses telling me not to bother handing a dime to them, begging is the easy way out, they're lazy etc etc.. Be it as it may, I prefer to think of them as really needy and in dire straits.

But I guess we will never know the real truth. Yes we have all heard stories in the past how there are scams going around, and those who use their kids as a 'sympathy' gimmick, or even those pretending to be handicapped. Deceit and lies play a very big part in the world we live in today, that- we all know. Nevertheless, what ever their motives are, good or bad, I shall be one of those who drops a buck or two when cross paths with one. Its better to give them the benefit of the doubt. Cz if they are really in need, then by all means , let my one buck lighten your burden. And if its a hoax to fool the public, well, divine retribution awaits you, and my one buck will not make me any more poorer nor you any more richer.........

Jive with it..

You know, everyday I see people and their different characters, their behaviour and contemplation, mentality and mindset, and I think to myself, What a bunch of diverse earthlings we really are.
I often lead myself to believe that everyone is equal, and everyone is the same and no one is different than the other. But the laws of nature keep proving me wrong. Two days ago, a guy cut my dad off on the road, very violently, like he was in some huge hurry, my dad- Didn't get upset, nor did he even breathe a sigh of dismay. On the other hand, if my Mom was the one behind the wheel, a whole 'symphony' of rhetorical remarks would've been passed till the cows came home. And these two folks of mine, have been living together for 23 years! See, I dont get life sometimes. Barack Obama, currently, has a substantial lead over his Republican rival John McCain for the Presidential campaign. Let me rephrase- It is likely Obama will be THE NEXT PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES!!!!
A black man. And half a century ago, blacks in America were treated as outcasts, slaves, scum to be more exact. They were being persecuted for the colour of their skin. And now, One of those 'Black kids' back in the day, is going to be the next President. Life can certainly change, and not only can it change, it can also show you that nothing is for certain, ever. My money is on Obama by the way, because it will certainly be a stamp of disgrace and humiliation to those who are racially biased, that a people that you so despise, has now produced a man you have to call Boss.It will be the biggest slap on the faces of the likes of the KKK and other groups as such.

We all have to remember that no matter what happens, everything happens for a reason. Our own political situation is in an utter mess. Why? Because we put the wrong people in the right seats. Our education system is suffering, why? Because we have appointed dead wood to administer education to our young generation. Everything that is happening around is a result of our own doing. We are too often at ease playing the blame game, and pointing fingers,shutting an eye, and sayin-Oops, I did it again. It is very easy to say, AH i don't care Lah! Or, it doesn't concern me, why bother. Friends, people in the 1950's of America too said why bother. Why bother caring for a nigga', who gives a rat's @$$ about black folks, they don't belong here.
Tables can turn, life can change.

I really do hope that our global economy can pick itself up as soon as WallStreet is back on its feet. I do hope alot of things in Malaysia change foe the better. But nothing is ever going to happen if none of us choose to do anything. Nothin is ever going to change if we keep electing the wrong people, if we keep appointing dead wood to teach our kids, if we only have solitary gain at best interest -nothing is ever going to change that way.

Best part is, when I wrote a newsletter about this in college, one reply i got said- Brother, Life is tough, Let's just PARTY!! and jive with it...

~Carpe Diem~

Sitting in my room, staring at my ceiling high above my head, thinking of thoughts that make no sense, wondering about our purpose here on Earth... But seriously folks, what IS our purpose here on Earth..As a Christian raised and bred in a Catholic family, I'm taught that there is divine plan, by God who is the Man above all else who created everything within 6 days. Now, I get that part. But. What is mysteriously unexplainable is, What are We doing here?? Patch hunter Adams theory on human evolution in present times is right on cue- " Man is born, suffers a serious amount of pain, man dies". Many around the world including myself would agree on that statement... Because alot get so caught up in worldly pleasures this temporary world has to offer and we often don't think about- What Next? So you have a good job, you get a good car, a wife to die for, a beautiful life (to you), and then what? What is the meaning of all this that we're experiencing thru life.. for what purpose? Look at yourself in the mirror.. In due time when you return to dust, will anything you do RIGHT NOW at this very second matter then? People today violently collect riches and have an undying thirst for power, and they'll do anything to get it- by any means. No matter who they step on, what they do, as long as they receive their 'rightful' profits for a better life.. And alot of us love to look down, belittle, shun, and say all sorts of mean things for different reasons because doing so makes us feel better and more superior than the one we hate and abhor. But I've come to realize and see, that in our time in this short world, though we may hate, despise, loathe another human being, and feel more superior or even greater- we all perish in the same manner. We are born in our nothingness, and we'll all die in our nothingness. Our bodies will be eaten up by the same worms, and our skeletons will be left to rot for centuries on end.. No matter how great you feel you are, no matter how awesome your life is, no matter who you hate, no matter who you love, what good you do, what wrong you do- you and the one you feel superior to end up on parallel proportions at the end of your lives.
I personally too am not liked by some, and even just resented for no apparent reason. But I don't hhate the person/persons back because there is no reason for me to. To those of you reading this, ask yourself, for every person that you can think of that you dislike, or even hate for some reason, is it worth it to fillyour heart up with feelings of such disdain? Life to me, is too short for me to allow myself to be filled with feelings and thoughts that will have no bearing on my life and its path, other than just making my thoughts askew far away. This is why I don't hate the one that hates me. No matter what you do to hurt me or crush me, its all in vain because you have been given a frame time to live out your sentence here on Earth- and you want to use to hate and hurt another? Now what good does that do to you and the rest?

Though we may not fully understand our purpose in life, or what happens after our time has come, one thing is for sure, the memories that you leave behind for the living to enjoy and cherish are priceless. What you do right now at this very second may not matter a single bit two seconds from now, every single memory you leave behind for the undead will definitely be a purple heart on yr badge when you go to meet your maker.

Carpe Diem- the two strongest words in Lation history gives us a little hint on our objective here on Earth. SEIZE THE DAY.... Yes, seize the day, and make the most out of it. For tomorrow should you depart from this life, the hunger for your presence again,may be partially filled with the memories of you, not by hatred or resentment.. So, Carpe Diem my fellow readers, for our time is short.. It is time to discard all the disparagement, and allow our hearts to love and live. Forget the ones you hate, forget the ones who hate you, forget the ones who will not alter the course of your life and be nothing but a withering pain that appears and disrupts the life you want to live.

As i write this, i wish that all of you read this will take a good look at your own life as i have done with mine. Time to think and start living.. Carpe Diem.

Good girl Gone bad.....

28/07/08- I was waiting for the train some time back, it was a LONG wait (thanks to the ever efficient Ktm) and i noticed a girl whom i studied with back in high school, LK at the station. We never actually spoke to each other, just the occasional nods and the whole 'Hi Bye' routine. Needless to say, i recognized her in an instant. She had her arms wrapped around a guy, who one would presume to be her boyfriend. Snuggling, occasional smooches,giggles and little eskimo kisses came around every other second. Though too much PDA for us Malaysians, they looked like they were totally in love.. They hardly kept their hands off each other. The train FINALLY arrived and i got on it, so did she, but he didn't. He stood outside, and waived her goodbye as the train started to move. LK sat across my seat, legs crossed, and began rummaging through her handbag for somethin that seemed really important to attain at that specific moment. Alas, it was her cell phone... With a quick dial, she put the phone to her ear, waited a moment, and these words came out, "Hey baby its me. I'm sorry I'm late baby, fucking train was delayed,, i'll see you in half an hour okay baby, bye bye." Now WAIT A MINUTE. Let me get this straight. Did I hear what I just heard? Is it what I think it is? Could it? Should it?
I told a few trusted people about this incident, though shocked, everyone tried to give her the ebenefit of the doubt. Even me. Some said it maybe it was her brother on the phone, maybe a relative, someone OTHER than whom i assume it would've been, judging from the conversation i heard. But even so, no excuse or reason made any sense. No one refers to any relative, or sibling as BABY, (at least in the world I live in), and no one would hold a brother or even a normal friend that way at the station let alone snuggle etc. So i told myself, I have to accept the obvious. LK was living a double life. Much to my surprise, later on I found out that this was actually the the norm, among 'Playa' teens, who hop from one partner to another and even have multiple relationships at one go. My question is- What is becoming of this world? Are we so alone, so deprived from the pleasures of life that we have brought ourselves to seek it in unpardonable acts such as this? Was LK so alone, or so desperate that she need to live a lie? I have yet to understand why partners cheat, especially ones who have something good going. I too have been played out before, though i thought i was doing my best and kept her happy, but it all ended when she found someone who showed her a better time. The only excuse, (which is hardly the appropriate word) that I can find after much thought into LK's matter is that either, one such as her has no conscience, or enjoys the thrill of living life on the edge, however wrong it may be. Clearly the hurt extended when the FACADE is UNVEILED has no bearing on her conscience because it doesn't take Einstein to figure out that leading such a distasteful life can only lead to nothing but destruction in the end, which ever party it may concern.

A lil bit about me...

Hi everyone, the name's Timothy Andrew, and no. i'm not one of those who jus type away at every thought and decided one day that i should blog it.. see, i've read countless blogs, and the one thing that really puzzles me is that a good handful of what i've read or seen has does not belong here. For a long time i never really understood the reason for blogging. always thought it was somewhat a waste of time and energy, but i've come to realize that bloggong isn't just about words. It isn't just about something somebody says or does, or feels. it is alot more than that. its the birth of ideas, where the truth speaks and we listen, i've come to understand that this is the one and only platform that we can say what we actually feel and not be persecuted by it.. so here I am, Timothy the blogger... needless to say my posting will be of great interest to many of you, i have alot of exciting and heart warming true life stories to tell all of you, as well as express my discontent towards certain matters.. but rest assured my fellow bloggers, my posting will not be a waste of time.